I have to add more thoughts because this is reminding me of a conversation I had a few days ago. Perception and Effort. To me, doing something that requires thought for some one I care about is effortless, because I *want* to so it. In my mind, 'effort' insinuates...

This is so true, delvanah.  I have also noticed that even when (especially when?) our load seems too much to bear, helping another shoulder their load tends to make our load seem much lighter.