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Change is a hard thing for me to deal with. Patience is hard to come by.

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OceAnna 18 February 10:58AM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING
Perhaps it's fear of the unknown. Perhaps it's bound up in our instictual selves that feel the need for control to protect our lives. A deeply rooted fear that if we're not in control of everything then a predator could break through and put us in danger.

LarryS 31 October 05:42PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 3 inspirations
It is difficult for us, as humans, to just be. We usually identify with that which we are attached to; our job title, spouse, lover, friend, family, material objects, even a certain feeling gives us something to identify with; so we hang on because hanging on gives us pur...

BeachGirl 25 October 06:36PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 4 inspirations
Because we fear the unknown. In truth, deep down, we do not trust - ourself, God, life... In order to 'go with the flow' - you must trust that you will not sink and drown. And if you do sink, you must trust that the water is not deep. The real truth is, there...

butterfliesinmyhead 28 November 10:55PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING
I see you wrote this about a month ago, but I just happened upon it: the Truth, simply stated. I appreciated reading it. Yes. If we do not believe in the benevolent nature of The Universe/God/ourselves, and the Oneness of all, we will always be afraid. (If you haven't al...

Felicia 22 October 04:43PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 2 inspirations
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” —The Serenity Prayer

aretamberg 17 October 02:01AM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING
Reading these responses has helped me understand why I asked this question. Control is not a bad thing, like simplereligion has said "it is how we control it". I like to make lists and have an agenda, those types of "controling" things are what make me...

Cedar 13 October 11:40PM	REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING
What do you fear will happen if you let go? What is your payoff for keeping control?

vkeiser 12 October 06:48PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 1 inspiration
Thank you aretamberg for your question. Thought provoking for sure and one most of us humans are challenged with at different times and on many levels. I read with interest James and Lauren's discussion of your question in the Wisdomology newsletter this morning in re...

Simplereligion 12 October 02:22PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 1 inspiration
The premise is that control is a bad thing. It isn't. 'Going with the flow' gives me a vision of mankind giving up the use of their bladders. Just making a piddle whenever it comes. Dogs and cats don't even do that. Some things need to be controlled...

natalia 12 October 10:29AM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 1 inspiration
Is it because we are afraid of change? Even if things need to be let go, aren't we comfortable in those habits whether they are good or bad? Natalia - new member - this is my 1st responce

pdas 12 October 10:24AM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 2 inspirations
I was wondering about this and then something struck me. We have actually been habituated into always being in control. We control everything in our lives. From breakfast to where we going to be buried and everything in between. Even in things we have no control...

Lauren 10 October 10:22AM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 3 inspirations
I hope this does not sound overly-clever or koan-like, because I mean it from the heart: It is hard to let go of something that you never truly held in the first place. Try grasping at the breeze and ask yourself: Why can't I hold onto this wind?

gradyormsby 11 October 09:52PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 4 inspirations
It is hard to let goes when one thinks it is hard to let go. Stop thinking. It is hard to let go when one tries to let go. Stop trying. Don't go with the flow. Be the flow.

artC1s 12 October 07:59PM	MORE \| REPLY \| REPORT \| MARK THIS INSPIRING 2 inspirations
Trying to be the flow is something I have been trying to accomplish. When I believe I have achieved a balance in my life, I am often shown that this is not the case at all.The metaphor that I use for my state is like a river delta, all channels flowing into one. My stream...

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